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How Do You Think?

Your brain, society, and the world around you are  made out of systems and thinking models.

Don’t ignore them.

Seek out patterns.

Seek out  how everything is connected beneath  the surface: whether it is the  structure of your favourite TV series, thinking models that your favourite thought-leader employs, or the way your child organises his or her thoughts.

Cracking a pattern is like cracking a code: it takes you to the next level.

It helps you formulate your own kind of thinking by deciding which systems and patterns to  ditch and which to  make your own.

For me and many other people I know and work with, writing is the best way to understand how we think and to shape and mould it accordingly. 

You can learn how to do it here.

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Why Do You Travel?

Many travel to see sights, enjoy a cocktail in the pool of a fancy hotel and, in general, get a dose of excitement.

What if you looked at travelling as a way of expanding your mind and thinking, a tool to help you become aware of your system of beliefs, your judgments and your ideas, and to call these all into question?

Doubt them.

Investigate them.

Even revise them.

The way you connect your thoughts and points of reference determines how you see the world.

The variables that you take into account are usually influenced by your environment(s).

When you are in the process of making a decision, you call a number of variables into your mind and choose between them.

What travelling - if done consciously - can do, is give you a new set of variables that you wouldn’t have otherwise come across.

What writing - if used as a tool - can do, is simply bring forth the variables you have been toying with your whole life (so you see them more clearly) and start paving the way for new...

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Are You a Perfectionist or Master?

Whatever you do, do it with excellence.

Perfection is for amateurs.

Excellence is for masters.

You only master something by learning when to take action and then to allow it.

Mastery never reeks of struggle.

That’s perfection.

Mastery is a gently controlled flow of particular area in life, which is tamed with joy.

You can pick whether to be a perfectionist or master.

You can learn more about the difference between the two here.

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Don't Make it About You, Make it About Others

Whether it is your business or life, don’t make it about you.  

Make it about your client.

Make it about your partner.

Make it about the other.

Make it about the cause. 

Make it about the ideas.

Make it about the change.

Don’t make it about you.

In celebrity-overrun , individualism-powered culture, we celebrate ‘making it about me’.

True flow comes from making it about the other. 

My flow stops once I make it about ‘me’.

Ego loves making it about ‘me’.

Ego hates making it about others.

But ego will always remain dissatisfied, it never has enough of ‘me’.

Making it about others is the best way to move past your ego and into your flow.

We get into flow at the Hero’s Journey Circle.

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How & Why to Live From the Heart? - EPISODE 6

 I’ve been losing my voice and so had to take a forced break from filming new episodes. But let’s get going again. What’s the difference between living from the heart and living from the mind? A big one.  

In the first half of the video: I share how making choices from the heart helped me move to Bali, set up a number of businesses and live a more meaningful life.

In the second half of the video: I teach a powerful technique to help you silence your  mind, connect to your heart and see your life’s challenges and successes from that place.

Watch more videos: http://goo.gl/Lm7CRa

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What’s Your Worth?

Your worth isn’t what other people think your worth is.

Your worth can’t be defined by any measures outside of you.

You define your worth. 

In any kind of relationship - with a client, a lover or a family member - you define your worth. Only you. 

And you get exactly what you ask for. The monetary expression, or the way people around you treat you, is a  direct reflection of your (self) worth.

It’s what you settle for.

And you’ll always settle for what your standard is.

And your standard is directly linked to how you define your worth.

In the Hero’s Journey Circle, we do lots of deep work around understanding your (self) worth. Check it out. 

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Are You Driven By Your Past or Your Future?

Most people are driven by their past. Their past traumas, failures and successes shape the way they see the world, standards they hold for themselves and even their dreams. They are drawing from a pool of memories and experience in order to move ahead.

But being driven by your past means playing by old rules. And if you play by the old rules, you can’t create much change.

Reality is loose and it can be shaped as you wish - that is if you want to shape it yourself , and are willing to put in some work.

How can you do that?

By deactivating your past through understanding and healing it.

And then focusing on your future, becoming driven by your future and allowing your future vision of yourself and your life to dictate a  new set of rules.

And when you begin playing by this new set of rules that is  aligned with your future rather than your past, your current life - circumstances and situations - will respond accordingly. Inevitably. And change will ensue…

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To Sell Is Human or Why I Love Selling

I like selling.

I have a couple of businesses where I have to sell. If I don’t sell, I don’t have a job, and a few people that are helping me out don’t either.

I love selling.

But I have some rules about selling.

First: I sell what I believe in.

Second: it’s not about the money.

It really isn’t.  If I make it about the money, there’s no money.

It’s a game.

It’s like playing chess. There are many strategies for winning and you have always to be aware of the partner you’re playing against.

I thrive when I sell and I revise my strategy when I don’t. Money in the bank is a score. It’s nice because it buys airline tickets and lets you fly to see friends - but that’s pretty much it.

Selling is about connection. Selling is about growth. Selling is about understanding - in conversation - whether this person needs what you are selling.

And if he doesn’t? Well, why would you push it?

For decades, the...

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Life As Jazz Impro: Balancing Deliberate Precision and Organic Flow

A good life is a fine balance between deliberate precision and organic flow.

Deliberate precision is your intention; the direction you want to go in; the focus that you think you should have.

Organic flow is your ability to stay in tune with natural laws of the universe and observe the signs. Instead of being tunnel visioned - only having an intention or direction - you are still in sync with the flow of life. Seeing where it is naturally taking you and how it is revealing itself to you is the way you stay in flow.

Often people come up with a goal - and most goals derive from ego - and get stuck on it as a needle on a record. And then they achieve it. And often they find themselves disappointed, as what they had aimed for isn’t fulfilling them. Why is that?

They simple acted with deliberate precision but forgot to stay in tune with organic flow. They ignored the signs and life’s whispers of what’s good for them and in what direction they ought to go.

Life is...

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Learning to Lose and Let go - Teddy Bear Story

There is a small girl.

And her father.

He is trying to take away her teddy bear.

She’s crying. Screaming. She loves her teddy bear. Her teddy bear is the best.

On his other hand, behind his back, the father is holding the most beautiful, softest teddy bear ever - bigger and better than the one the girl has right now.

But the rule of the game is: he has to take away the small teddy bear in order to hand her the big one.

Even though her father is telling her: you’ll be okay, I’ve got you something nice, even better - she isn’t listening.

She’s attached to the teddy bear and the memories and what it represents.

Finally, after a long while of tossing and pulling, she concedes and hands her father her beloved toy. The father smiles and hands her the new teddy bear.

Her face lights up. She tears up - this time out of  awe and happiness. Her small teddy bear is barely a memory...

What’s your teddy bear right now in life?

What is it  that...

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