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See your life as a script that you are writing and creating every day.

In film, most scripts fail because of two reasons:

1. The protagonist isn’t active.

That is, if the protagonist isn’t pursuing a clear goal and his story doesn’t have a linear overall arc.

2. The protagonist doesn’t change.

That is, if the protagonist remains the same throughout the film and, at the end of the film, he is left unchanged.

Life’s script doesn’t fail when you have many failures or setbacks along the way, pursuing your life’s goal - in fact, it’s often the opposite.

It starts failing when there’s a lack of mission, purpose or a greater goal in your story, which usually translates as the driving force that moves your life forward.

It also fails, however, if you go through life with little changing in you or your environment, in your worldview or your thinking.

There are many variables, of course, but at the core lie the following questions:

Are you stagnating or are you changing?

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Your worth isn’t what other people think your worth is.

Your worth can’t be defined by any measures outside of you.

You define your worth. 

In any kind of relationship - with a client, a lover or a family member - you define your worth. Only you. 

And you get exactly what you ask for. The monetary expression, or the way people around you treat you, is a  direct reflection of your (self) worth.

It’s what you settle for.

And you’ll always settle for what your standard is.

And your standard is directly linked to how you define your worth.

In the Hero’s Journey Circle, we do lots of deep work around understanding your (self) worth. Check it out. 

Most people are driven by their past. Their past traumas, failures and successes shape the way they see the world, standards they hold for themselves and even their dreams. They are drawing from a pool of memories and experience in order to move ahead.

But being driven by your past means playing by old rules. And if you play by the old rules, you can’t create much change.

Reality is loose and it can be shaped as you wish - that is if you want to shape it yourself , and are willing to put in some work.

How can you do that?

By deactivating your past through understanding and healing it.

And then focusing on your future, becoming driven by your future and allowing your future vision of yourself and your life to dictate a  new set of rules.

And when you begin playing by this new set of rules that is  aligned with your future rather than your past, your current life - circumstances and situations - will respond accordingly. Inevitably. And change will ensue…

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We expect people to treat us with kindness, love and respect. But the truth is that some simply don’t. They just don’t. There are moments in life when we are shocked to discover that our life partner, work colleague or a friend can be not only unkind to us but also mean, emotionally violent and even toxic. How about that?

What happens then to our faith in love, morality and kindness?

We feel betrayed. It’s unfair. They shouldn’t have said that. They shouldn’t have done that.

No, probably they shouldn’t have.

But the question and greatest test for you is to figure out how you respond to that. What are you like in the face of adversity, dishonesty and violence? Do you also compromise your humanity and values by responding to it aggressively - with anger, fear and the desire to harm and hurt?

No, I am not talking about the whole idea ‘turn the other cheek’ here.

I loved what Michelle Obama said in relationship to Trump’s rude, bullying rhetoric toward minorities: ‘When they go lo...

I believe that life is a mythical story. It isn’t, of course, if you spend your time watching TV and eating potato chips.

But as soon as you ask yourself the question why am I here?, something changes. Your mythical journey begins. Whether you want it to or not.

Our society has many myths ready for us to subscribe to:

MYTH 1: Climb the career ladder, achieve, be respected, be powerful, pile up lots of money in your bank account and you’ll be… a success.

MYTH 2: Love, really love, hold hands, kiss in the rain, exchange rings, cradle your baby, see her grow and you’ll be… a success.

MYTH 3: Strive for flashing lights, see your face on magazine covers, be known, where is your fur or diamond ring, rise higher, almost to become a demigod, and you’ll be… a success.

MYTH 4: Combine the three  above and you’ll be… a success.

MYTH 5: .?.

There are many more narratives. What’s your myth? What story are you living out?

Once we have answered the question why we are here, we feel a sens...