What kind of child were you?

What and whom did you love?

What hurt you the most?

What brought you joy?

What did you want to do and be when you grew up?

Travel to your childhood.

Meet yourself as a child.

You might be surprised to find that the very history of you as a child conceals a lot of the answers to the questions you have now.

Most anxieties will be unlocked by travelling back.

Depressions will fade when you meet yourself, truly.

Meeting yourself as a child will mean quitting the safety of your adult armour.

Meeting yourself as a child will mean opening up your heart so fully that it might actually hurt.

Meeting yourself as a child will mean assessing whether you are living up to your fullest potential or just wasting your days.

Meeting yourself as a child will mean forgiving your father, forgiving your mother, forgiving yourself.

Meeting yourself as a child will mean healing and maturing into a complete version of yourself.

Meeting yourself as a child will mean an end...

When someone gives me a hard time - be it a colleague, an employee, a partner, a friend or a stranger, before reacting, I ask myself one question: ‘Is it any of my business?’

I usually don’t react.

What that question does is show you whether this person’s problem or drama has got anything to do with you.

95% of the time it has nothing to do with you and it is just them having a bad day or, if it is a closer relationship, it is often the other party living out their childhood and past traumas.

It’s very rare that it is really about you.

And, if it is, then you take appropriate action. Having paused and assessed how much of your business it is.

But, when it isn’t about you, and you consciously realise this, you are able to step away from it and have some  distance.

A reaction vacuum.

The only way to get to bed calm is to not engage with the other people’s drama, and then, of course, your own.

Most people are driven by their past. Their past traumas, failures and successes shape the way they see the world, standards they hold for themselves and even their dreams. They are drawing from a pool of memories and experience in order to move ahead.

But being driven by your past means playing by old rules. And if you play by the old rules, you can’t create much change.

Reality is loose and it can be shaped as you wish - that is if you want to shape it yourself , and are willing to put in some work.

How can you do that?

By deactivating your past through understanding and healing it.

And then focusing on your future, becoming driven by your future and allowing your future vision of yourself and your life to dictate a  new set of rules.

And when you begin playing by this new set of rules that is  aligned with your future rather than your past, your current life - circumstances and situations - will respond accordingly. Inevitably. And change will ensue…

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